Key Thought for this session:
“Without the context of a bigger stage, BEING TRUE TO SELF is a flattering allegiance to bias and voices of deception.”
I just mentioned the saying: “It’s not what you see that matters, but what you see it is.” Let’s illustrate this this principle further as to how it may work differently for men and women.
Suppose a man and woman were walking down the street and suddenly a strange and frightening person appeared. The woman may see a threat and the man may see a challenge. Both saw the same person in the same situation, but each saw or perceived something different.
We call this “salient stimuli.” The Oxford dictionary defines the word salient as: “Most noticeable or important; prominent, or conspicuous.”
It’s the information that is most noticeable to an individual. Let’s say that two parents see their child misbehaving. One parent may see the behavior as rebellion but the other parent may see the child playfully being a child. What is salient to one person is not necessarily salient to another.
Do you know that how our brain works can also affect what is salient to us? You may have heard of ‘left-brain, right brain’ people.
The fact is that you are not only affected by left or right parts of your brain but also upper and lower, forming four quadrants that demand your attention. The strength of influence across these quadrants work in different ways in different people. As you encounter situations in life, you are looking for answers to the questions that your brain is naturally asking. Therefore, the information you actually see or hear is guided by the part of your brain that needs information. So, if you are green brained and see an accident, you are conditioned naturally to perceive HOW the accident happened. Another person who is yellow brain would be oriented to see WHY the accident happened. Red brained people look for insight into WHO was involved, were they hurt, and who was at fault. Finally, a blue brained person looks for information that best describes WHAT happened. What we see is highly affected by what our brain needs to know.
When you encounter an event or someone makes a statement, it’s a little like your brain is itching. Answering questions will scratch the itch. For example, when I make the statement, there are only two core worldviews. What happens in your brain?
Yellow brain sees the question “why only 2?”